Exposing the Myth of the Super Parent!

by Mindy Kaleta on June 13, 2013

family with dog

Exposing the Myth of the Super Parent!

“Super (parent)…that Perfect Person against whom we compare ourselves in order to fully experience failure.” – Ellen Goodman, Close to Home

Yes, I know, we ALL want to be the so-called “Super-Parent”.  I mean, we REALLY want to be THAT parent.  That’s why we do over and above what our great grandmothers, grandmothers and some mothers did in order to NOT make the mistakes that they may have made.  Or maybe we are trying desperately to live up to the perfect picture of parenting that has been passed down through the family and you’re afraid you won’t measure up. OR…what society has dictated to be the perfect “Super-Parent”.

Remember the Brady Bunch?  If you experienced this TV sitcom while it was running or have seen the multiple reruns, you see Mr. & Mrs. Brady answering the door together, arm in arm…what???  Who DOES that?  Seriously!!

Then the scene changes to the kids as they are getting ready for bed, sitting on the bed chatting, wearing their freshly ironed PJs and being sooo polite and getting along so nicely without any arguing or disagreements!  What a picture of the perfect family!

BUT…have you met any family that really lives like that?

Ok, let’s get real!

The family of the year 2013 is mobile and super busy to say the least.  In my women’s workshop, 7 Steps to Being a Happy Woman…here’s what I said about the “busy syndrome”:

“We seem to be running at lightning speed! We have millions of messages bombarding us on a daily basis…such as;

Facebook, Twitter, Pinerest, google+, Instagram, E-mail, texting, voice mail, regular old “snail” mail (mainly for those bills and ads), billboards, store ads, TV, movies, newspapers, magazines, (online and offline), newsletters, blogs, websites…not to mention face to face interactions with family, friends, coworkers, neighbors, acquaintances…

…then we have Soccer, football, baseball, band, parent-teacher conferences, ….I could go on and on…”

Wears you out just THINKING about all that is being thrown at you ALL DAY LONG!  Then on top of it all, we pressure ourselves in believing that we CAN be that Super-Human…Parent.  What were we thinking!!???

Again…BUT…there is good news!

You don’t have to be PERFECT.  There I said it.

Let me say it again. 

You don’t have to be PERFECT.

You may not believe that right now; or you WANT to believe that it’s true! In your soul you are screaming, “Oh, PLEASE let it be true!”

There is no such thing as the super parent.  All we can hope for is to:

Do the best that we can, with what we have from where we are.

Whether you are the parent of kids or pups, it’s pretty much the same concept.  We love our kids and would do anything for them.  The dogs (and other pets) in our care also deserve our very best.  Sometimes things get a little crazy…that’s just life. But it needn’t get us down and call ourselves terrible parents!  How bout we just get off that bandwagon and just be that parent that cares deeply about their children…kid-kind or fur-kind, and do your best to make sure that they have all that they need physically, mentally, emotionally…and that is all that anyone can ask!!

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